Saturday, August 30, 2014


In what can only be described as a "YOLO decision", I'm spending the long weekend on a romantic Hawaiian getaway...with my friend Charlotte! 

Last week Charlotte asked if I wanted to do a last minute trip to a Hawaii for Labor Day, because she'd found a decent deal. Hard to turn that down, right? :)

Thursday, August 28, 2014


Sometimes I think I'm imagining things.  That my mind is playing tricks on me.  That words I heard were never actually spoken.

Last night, as BF and I were saying good bye for a long weekend, he said "love you."  Unprompted, for the first time, since I blurted it out a few weeks ago.  "Love you too," I responded and kissed him once more.

Those sweet words echoed through my mind as I fell asleep.  Feeling a bit day-dreamy this morning, I thought "Wait! Could I have misheard him?  What if he said 'olive juice'?  What if I just heard what I wanted to hear?"

This is where I remind myself that I was not in fact expecting to hear that sentiment from him, and my mental state has not regressed so far as to be hearing things.


Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Selling yourself to a date

I'm sharing this article because it's hilarious:  a man who listed very specific conditions about a woman in order to date her.  Among them were "must maintain slim hourglass body" and "cannot go number two at his house."

What are some of the weird requirements you've heard from men?  I've heard:  no vegetarians, must not be afraid to ride on a motorcycle, must be able to ski on a black diamond slope, must be completely hairless down there.

The weirdest I've heard from a guy, who clearly meant it as praise, was that he couldn't be with a woman who had pale-colored nipples.

Monday, August 25, 2014

No apologies

I know women tend to apologize more and carry guilt longer than their male counterparts.  I manage to take it up a notch.  

On Saturday, BF and I had separate plans with our respective friends.  Since my plans would end earlier, we agreed that I’d potentially meet up with him and his people. And if not, he’d definitely meet me and my friends at night, when we planned to go out.  He’s easy like that.

After my daytime BBQ, I met up with BF and had a great time with his friends for a few hours.  Things were winding down, but the remaining stragglers ended up playing a fun game.  After two rounds, I gently asked BF if we could go, because I didn’t want to be late to meet my friends.  He was perfectly amenable to that and yet… I felt guilty!  I felt bad for making him leave a fun activity with a coed group, to go hang out with mostly girls doing girly things like going dancing.  Even though BF was perfectly agreeable to leaving, my paranoid self was worried he didn't really want to go out with my friends.

Thanks to too much sun and wine, I got rather drunk and sick that night.  I was so passed out, I slept through a 6.1 earthquake!!  BF took care of me and stayed over, which I’m sure was not fun for him, sleeping in my overly hot apartment next to a restless drunk girl.  I thanked him twice, apologized too many times, and spend Sunday (after he left) feeling both deathly ill and horribly upset about my behavior.

Again, silliness.  Who hasn’t had one too many drinks and gotten sick (ok, maybe not in their 30s)?  And is it wrong to have your boyfriend take care of you in those moments?  I’d definitely do the same for him.   BF texted me later in the day to ask how I was doing (the answer:  puking up water) and made plans for this week.  He's such a good guy.  

Because he's a boy and I'm a girl, I will remind myself:  do not bring up Saturday night drunken behavior.  Do not apologize for being sick, do not thank him (for the third time) for taking care of me.  And stop worrying.  It's fine.

Monday, August 11, 2014


An interesting look at "read receipts" on phones, and how privacy keeps taking a hit.  I'm enjoying the #Love series on TechCrunch.  I particularly like the quotes from women who say they don't always read texts from men right away just to keep the mystery going.

I never use read receipts for texts.  It just opens myself up to getting offended if someone sees my text but takes hours or days to respond.

BF and I have a mixed-device relationship so the read receipts don't work and we can't see each other typing.  Thank goodness.


Monday, August 4, 2014

Is butter a carb?

I returned from my week of travels last night.  As much as I love seeing family and being in my architecturally gorgeous home city, it's great to be back!

BF and I had plans to hang out the night I returned; we ordered take out and caught up.  We kept in regular touch while I was away; sent brief emails once a day and chatted on the phone a couple of times.  It was the perfect amount of contact for me, not overwhelming but enough to share tidbits until we could talk.

Impulse decision of the week:  I joined Weight Watchers online, in a fit of frustration after my mom pointed out my recent weight gain.  The goal is 10 lbs, which is enough to fit into my "happy" size 6.

Saturday, August 2, 2014


With a week of flights and hotel rooms, I've plowed through nearly 3 books this week.

Eleanor and Park:  really wanted to like this based on reviews from friends, but just couldn't get into it.  I can handle young adult literature when it has an intriguing background or plot (e.g. Harry Potter, Hunger Games, Fault in Our Stars).  And the characters, especially Eleanor, certainly invoked my sympathy  But besides that, it was just teenage love.  Maybe I'm just dead inside.

The Pursuit of Mary Bennet:  For all you Jane Austen fans, this a good read that takes place in the world of Pride & Prejudice.  I was a little hesitant after reading horrible sequels like Death Comes to Pemberly and Mrs. Darcy.  Also a good read in that category is Longbourn, which is about the Bennet family's servants.

The Cuckoo's Calling:  Love JK Rowling!

Other recent reads:
The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P:  A guy's perspective of dating in NY.  Made me hate men.  
Sisterland:  Twin sisters with psychic powers.  Really rich character detail, liked this a lot.
The Forever Girl:  Interesting fictional account of ex-pat life in the Cayman Islands.
Bridget Jones 3:  Mad About the Boy:  She's all grown up and a mom!  Enjoyable but not as fun as single 30-something Bridget.

Friday, August 1, 2014


I admit I love hashtags.  It's a mockingly amused sort of love.  They've really become part of our vernacular.  But until the day comes that hashtags are unacceptable *shudder*, I will continue to use them.  Even in spoken conversation.  Even as an anachronism #imsoexcited #imsoscared  Even in client meetings #alwaysbeclosing

Where I draw the line?  Couples hashtags.  Now, wedding hashtags are fine, because it's an fun way to see lots of different posts from an event.  But when a couple consistently adds to their mundane posts #jimandkathy or #themurphys, I wonder what the point is.

Unless you're trying to be ironic and silly, there is #no #need #for #a #couple #hashtag.

This post was inspired by my own Facebook feed, where an old classmate crowd-sourced his social network to come up with a clever hashtag for him and his fiance.  #blurgh

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Do you text someone and then throw your phone across the ocean?

For the slow texters in my life, including a rather handsome one, I want to use all of these responses when they don't text back quickly enough.

My favorites:

This person using pop culture references.

This person with standards.

Tuesday, July 29, 2014


My friend showed me a new dating app she's using called JSwipe, which  is essentially Tinder for Jewish people.  I wonder what other religions/ethnic groups have their version of Tinder.  As much as I hate the Tinder model (I'm bitter that no one ever wrote me on Tinder besides creepy out-of-town visitors), I'm all for technology helping people meet.  Has anyone used it?

As we went through my friend's JSwipe, we came across this guy with the most amazing profile picture.  I told her she should like him just to get the story behind it.