Today, I received an OkC message from this guy, who had cancelled our date three months ago, and never rescheduled because I was running 30 min late due to a last-min appearance by our CEO. A week later, the guy had actually texted to tell me he started seeing someone and was going to pursue it. Fair enough.
Today, he wrote me saying "Hey, I know it's been awhile, but are you still interested in grabbing a drink?"
I'm not taking it personally that he back-burnered me while he pursued a potential relationship, I'd probably do the same. But I wonder how we've become a society of dating back-up plans and priority lists. For instance, a girl can go out with Boy A and Boy B, and will accept a date from Boy C but only if Boy A hasn't asked her out? Or leave Boy B on a hook while she gives Boy A a month to step up, and then go back to Boy B if A doesn't pan out.
I know that this is normal, but it kind of freaks me out that this has become normal.